▲ 26 November, 2014
▲ 19 May, 2014
For my blackness is and will not be tied to the decisions and actions of others. For we may have lost a battle but the war will be won. For we never know how high we are until we are called to rise.
Labels: blackness, college, dc ferguson, ferguson, peaceful protests, stand for nothing fall for anything
Another Lesson Learned.
▲ 23 February, 2014
As I wrap up the semester, I am in a state of reflection. I want to dedicate this post to the 5 major lessons that I learned and (reinforced) in my first year here at University.
1. Allow yourself to have your own dreams and chase them.
While you're here in this life, it's important never loose sight of your dream and its' accompanying vision. Yes, we often become consumed with work, school, friends and any other activities that fill up our daily planner entries. As easy as it is to add another appointment into our blocks, it is just as important to schedule the time and the opportunities that allow you exposure into your dreams. If you want to work with children and education, pick up that volunteer opportunity at the local elementary school. If you see yourself as a professional boxer, get involved with the local organization. If you see yourself as a Pokémon catcher, you better get yourself in touch with some people at Nintendo. Do ya get my point? Tend to your current demands, but also start the investments for your dreams.
2. Don't put yourself through anything that doesn't bring joy (not happiness), or satisfaction.
This will later tie into the next bulletin point about knowing your worth. But very simply, if it does not bring you satisfaction or joy in the situation, it is not worth your time and investment. Now, I added in parenthesis, not happiness because I understand that through life you will experience some moments that make you absolutely miserable and regret any decisions that led you to that point. Experiences like those are what take away from ones' happiness, in the sense that happiness is based on happenings. Example given, I had a calculus class this previous semester that I absolutely dreaded attending. The lecture was too big, the teacher went entirely too fast and the TA didn't add to my comprehension. Would I choose to drop that course simply because it made me unhappy? no. I understood the importance of the course, as it was a pre-requisite in order to pursue what I really love, economics and public policy. It surely didn't make me happy, but it brought me joy in knowing that I was that much closer to my future in policy. But if something doesn't bring you joy, then you have no reason to partake in such. I hope that cleared that up. Frankly, know what you are worth and don't settle for experiences that are subpar.
3. Know your worth.
I am so blessed to have been given such a fundamental and comforting upbringing where I was able to learn the basics of self-love and confidence. These lessons comprised from my grandma enforcing the principle in me that school was my top priority, before I should heed to my looks or boys. To the eager moments while watching RuPaul's Drag Race and listening to RuPaul proclaiming, “If you don't love yourself, how in the hell you gonna love somebody else?” Or observing the failed relationships of close family members solely because of one person's desire in the idea of obtaining a partner before obtaining a sense of self confidence. In those small vocal snippets and major observations, I knew to place my ability and knowledge ahead of my looks. And without mincing ones' words, I think this transpires across the board in all aspects of our life experiences. This lesson ties in with my former bullet. Once you know your personal worth and the value of that treasure to the world, you will never bring yourself to endure subpar experiences that do any less that to uplift you, support your dreams and inspire you.
4. Be honest with yourself.
In taking an honest look at yourself and your situations, you are able to set the best plan to move forward. We should all be past the stage where we fill our head with imaginary situations and events that we wish could occur. I've learned that is best to face reality and prepare ones' self for the best plan of action. I like to think that our heart and brain get a little offended when we masquerade like everything is okay. It's okay to not be okay, and it's okay to not have everything work out like you wanted it. Most importantly, it is okay to fail. The better resolution of the two is to find ways to address the situations that are ongoing. Whether it is an overwhelming feeling of stress and pressure, or emotions of inadequacy and loss. It's important to address those feelings in being honest with yourself. Your feelings are never invalidated --- something that I'm learning more than ever this year.
5. Seek to find inspiration in the most "likely" places.
At times, I think that we have this common tendency to imagine fresh sources of inspiration as these very obscure, off-beaten and "super artsy" places in order to gain a new mindset of inspiration for the next stage of life. While, I don't disagree with this sometimes contrived idea, I think that sometimes the inspiration for that next project, or the instant that you find clarity for your day can be in the middle of your morning walk or sometimes just sitting on the pavement while reading a book. As a testament, I found inspiration for this blog post while sitting in my piercing hot dorm room while surfing the net. You don't always have to take an enlightenment trip to India or listen to the ocean's waves in order to get inspiration (but it would be nice). Vision boards are also very helpful. I keep them on my desk and set goals for the semester. Again, you never know where you will find inspiration, so keep searching for it.
my most peaceful moment on campus 6.15.14
I'm sure that this list will grow to become a cumulative list for all my four years. I'm excited for what life has to bring for me and what I can do in this life.
Labels: college, lessons, time, will tell, wisdom
▲ 14 February, 2014
Again, I keep reminding myself that it's all about finding the little treasures in the most unsuspecting places. As a typical college student, I'm succumbed to the repetitive meals of my dining hall and the occasional night out. Well, today was the exception. I was visiting a friend earlier that weekend and I noticed that she had a few items from the organic store. We decided to take a trip the next day. I surely don't regret it! Back in my hometown, there was a Mom's Organic Store which was my saving grace in a meat-consuming household. Upon arriving to college, I realized that my options were again restricted. But I happy to report that upon taking a short metro bus ride along a short, beaten-off path that describes a borough of D.C., we were able to find Yes! Organic. I wanted to take more pictures inside, but I was too amazed! We picked up good stuff and headed back. The total came to a decent amount. From previous shopping experience in organic stores,I wanted my budget and model like.
On an aside, I'm so grateful that I have a steady on-campus job, where I am able to fit things like this into my budget. Just another blessing that is worth counting to me. I will be posting again very soon, about something in the works regarding my "travels" section.
Labels: afro, college, eats, leather satchel, natural hair, organic food, organic store, vegan, vintage sweater
Stories of Valentines Day's Past 2.14.14
▲ 04 February, 2014
This title is kind of a joke because I am 102% sure that I have never recognized Valentine's day in my past years except for eating the heart-shaped candies that my little siblings brought home from school. I so vividly remember those Valentine's Day cards that our third-grade teachers made us make for our fellow classmates. I remember my first puppy love "crush." I made sure I gave him a card with a hand-made heart and my oh-so-cool signature. I would give him the occasional eye when he wasn't looking in my direction. Fast forward to now, I still find myself sneaking looks at attractive men for the eye candy and nothing else. These are just a few snapshots of how I spent my valentine's Day. I bought myself flowers about two days ago because I got a $3 vase at Target and I refused to neglect them. They make me smile and give me another reason to take pictures. I tried my best to stay off social networks, but being the hopeless romantic that I am, I had to. And boy, I was not disappointed. People are really cute. And love is really
cute. I'm heading out to dinner later with a friend (pictures are to follow). I just find it inspiring to see love in young peers. There's a certain rush that you get from having another person to kick it with. I don't find myself in a rush to get into a relationship (read previous blog post
). But I should start getting ready so I should probably stop listening to my Pandora playlist and take a shower.
|It was a great night!!|
Who was your first "grade-school" Valentine?
Labels: carnations, college, college dating, cvs, dating, dating in college, flowers, food, galentines day, laptop, love, netflix, netflixing, target deals
Love on the Rocks
▲ 02 February, 2014
This post comes fresh off the tips of the infamous "syllabus week," and the adjustment period. Yesterday, late at night, I found myself in a stuffy dorm room with some girlfriends, applying face masks and listening to Drake's Nothing Was The Name.
As any stereotypical "girls' talk" happens, we got to the topic of boys and relationships. A topic, that I found little to no interest in. Throughout my life, I have definitely experienced the pendulum swing of boy-crazy to slightly asexual. In the middle of our conversation, my friend asked, "Sade, do you want a relationship?" I quickly retorted with a firm "no," citing academic goals and disinterest in the male population of my university. As I reflect over this question in the middle of the club (read
: my school's library), I wonder what the exact reason why I do not pursue romantic endeavors. There definitely is a background to my reasoning. A background that is far too complicated to either explain in one blog post or expose through the internets. Let's just say that I've had not the best experiences with boys and male figures. I will say
that I have grown from that immature and closed point in my life, where I detested the male specimen as much as a group of angry divorcées. But at the point in my life right now, I find myself working on the foundation of my career and exploring my academic life as I have come to know it. Frankly, I am sure that I have time to pursue a relationship, however, I don't see myself jumping at the chance to engage in such conversations. Sure, I will head to downtown D.C. with the girls and dance the night away, but texting, entertaining thirst traps, I'm not sure if I'm up for it. I find it exhausting to invest in things that have little to no return factor. I'm not the one to waste my time with random hookups or "talking." But I will say this: I love love.
I love that rush and the spring of butterflies when you see the person. I love looking forward to just being with someone just to be with them. There is no need for conversation, just to each others' presence is more than enough. I believe in the organic nature of two people coming together, not the forced or desperate nature of it.
I think that @theladywithquestions
stated it best:
The bottom line is that you need to give yourself the respect you deserve and understand the person you’re trying to share a real commitment with. He can’t be a manifestation of some fantasy you read in a fairy tale; he’s a real person with numerous flaws.
Frankly, I love everything about this quote. My view on things: If it's happens, it will happen. But until then, I'll appreciate genuine love from the background and focus on myself.
Kennedy Center Performance (I forgot to post these photos!)
Labels: college, college life, college relationships, love, relationships, time
To Live: 2. To Live is to Breathe
▲ 30 December, 2013
Mushroom ravioli with Vodka Blush sauce
Grilled salmon with vegetables
Carrying on with this "to live" series, I figured the above picture would compliment it quite nicely. Please visit my last post
, if slightly confused. I think that another definition of living is breathing. What do I mean by that? Living is to breathe in all the experiences and sights and sounds that come with all the events of life. To breathe is to immerse yourselves in the experiences that you take part in like you are a foreigner in a new country with little language proficiency. To live is to breathe it all in..
On a technical note (aside from my philosophical theories), A few friends and I went out to eat earlier this week. My semester just started on the 27th, so it was a nice way to go into the semester. It was a good break from the mediocre college food that I was eating when living with my older brother. Socially, I find myself more willing to go out and participate in social activities than before. It seems to be more of a balancing act between academic, psychological and social life. When I say psychological, I mean that I've learned to take time out for myself and get some "me time." I've learned over time that at the end of the day, it is you who runs your life and makes the major decisions. Therefore, it is essential to have some time to yourself to either debrief, breakdown, relax and so on. That part to me is so important. Although, I am a self-proclaimed extrovert; I don't mind retreating to a hermit shell for a few days if it means a sound mind. Overall, I have been holding up. I feel a bit behind in my academic work (I know it is the first week), so I'll have to spend some time catching up. In order news, I feel good about this upcoming semester! I hope all is well on your end.
Labels: bridge overlook, bridges, bright lights, city, college, college friends, drinks, fences, food, foodie, friends, laughing, nyc, ravioli, to live, vodka, vodka sauce
Promise that You Will Sing about Me.
▲ 03 September, 2013
I whipped up a meal for myself. I made linguine with a peppery
tomato base and avocado (vegetarian for the win). When you're stuck in a dorm for 3 and 1/2 months living on meal plans from the dining hall, you tend to get excited when you're able to make an adequate meal. I'm excited to see more meals like this in the new year #letsseehowthatgoes.
But it seems like the New Year is always an excuse to post old selfies and make declarations to change in the next 24 hours. The only "declaration" that I will make and will continue to follow is to learn from yesterday's lessons. I think that even more, my faith in God continues to play a bigger role than ever.
Chinatown,DC for a friend's birthday
An anti-intervention Syria protest in October
Route 1 at night (my college town)
Me at the Holocaust Museum Elevator
At a good friend's graduation party
Regardless, this year has been full of ups and downs. To have the ability to look back with a smirk, I thank God. It has been such an insightful year.
“Tomorrow, is the First Blank Page of a 365 Page Book. Write a Good One.” - Brad Paisley
And I plan to.
Labels: college, travel
This Is For You.
▲ 02 May, 2013
I hope this finds you well.
I am officially settled in with my college and roommate. All is well on that front.
I haven't been very active on this blog, so there is a definitely a lot of ground to cover. I feel humbled and blessed to be in this position as a college student. While this is not my first semester, I still approach it with the same importance. I have been definitely opening myself up to meet other people, than I previously have before. I realized that it is important to have a healthy balance. I can't stick myself in a room and consider myself normal. Also! I finally got around to finishing Eat, Pray, Love.
Well... I will be honest, I didn't finish it. For some reason, I just couldn't get myself to complete it. I was truly enjoying the first part of the book, then when it got to the second and third part, I had little enjoyment in it. Why begrudgingly go through reading a book? Anyways, my University has a suggested book read: The Signal and The Noise
by Nate Silver. If you know me at all, I definitely will not turn down a free book. It is a book about statistics they say. I went out a bit to explore earlier last month.
Kiyoko Japanese Restaurant
Important update: I purchased a digital camera to take short flicks out and about!! yay! no more blackberry struggles! Ever since someone stole my photography camera, I felt such resentment towards purchasing a new camera. But I decided what a better time to make memories than now :-) Thus, you will see much more updates from me!
Avocado Roll @ Kiyoko
Labels: college, food
(DC Trip 2013)
“The more we let God take us over, the more truly ourselves we become - because He made us. He invented us. He invented all the different people that you and I were intended to be. . .It is when I turn to Christ, when I give up myself to His personality, that I first begin to have a real personality of my own.”
“And now we welcome the new year, full of things that have never been”
As I begin this summer as an undergrad, I'm filled with emotions of anxiety and excitement. University of Maryland, College Park, here I come. I know that you're a blessing in disguise, and that God sees something that I am far too blind to see.
Labels: college, DC, FEELS GOOD MAN